I truly believe that most men are princes and we somehow manage to turn them into frogs. And yes, there are exceptions. I'm sure you did meet some frogs in your life and tried to turn them into princes to no avail.
You see, love can create such miracles that it literally empowers the person who is being bestowed the love.
You, as a woman, have the power and the capacity to turn your man into the hero you are searching for, simply by following these steps:
1. Decide that this relationship is worth you committing to - at least for the next 7 days.
Why? Because it has you showing up as fully present in the relationship and it's that ALL in approach that creates certainty. He feels certain that you are THERE, and that's when the changes can happen.
Committing to a relationship creates space for it to expand, to grow, to move into a different way of thinking about your relationship and seeing what role you play. This decision to commit moves you forward so much more quickly.
2. Go on an appreciation diet - find all the good things that your partner does for you, how he enhances your life, even if it's only little, even if you think he should do it anyway - like take the rubbish out because it's his house.
Actually, he does it for you, if he lived by himself, he wouldn't do it as often! He does lots of things according to your standard, to make your life easier.
What are the things that he does for you? Find them. Make a list. And start appreciating.
What's important here, is to tell him what you appreciate and what it does for you. Say, when he takes the rubbish out, what does it do for you? How does it make you feel? This requires some vulnerability on your part and it makes him feel appreciated and significant.
3. Open up to receive with grace what he is offering.
Most of the time your man does things for you. I have said this before, however this is such an important point that I repeat it again. Because I know, most of the time women don't believe it.
Simply say thank you and let his actions touch you. For example, when he vacuums the house after you asked maybe for the fifth time, rather than criticising him for not doing it in your timing, appreciate the effort. He did that for you.
Let him know why is it important for you to have a clean house, how does it make you feel, what does it allow you do to?
Your conversation might go something like this: "Darling, thank you so much for vacuuming. I so appreciate your support. I love a clean house, it makes me feel relaxed, beautiful and allows me to give more attention and love to you and our kids."
A part of you will be impatient and think, "How will this help me get what I want (more love, more support) NOW?" But I assure you that with practice you'll see dramatic changes in your relationship and your man will start to want to give to you because he gets so much out of your appreciation.
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